Back again to Study

Many Sallams to all of you guys,many thanks to ut, maya, DTD, and Enlightened spirit for their concern and their comments. i was really busy last weeks in finishing my proposal of the PhD, so i'm going to study again ( wa wa wa wa wa wa) i know it will be at least very tough 3 years , i need ur duas to support me and do the best. i was lucky to get the offer from Cranfield university which is one of the best in my field,also i got very good supervisor for my degree who is from Iraq ,to be honest 60 % of the PhD decision belong to his support and motivation,may Allah reward him for his kindness and support. it took from me more than one month to take my decision which i think it's hard decision, cos spending 3 year just on study is adventure especially if u don't have scholarship from anywhere, inshaliha i hope i'll manage and i'll try to get the most of it.

Also i was involved in getting offers and acceptance for master and PhD degrees for the Libyan student who have scholarship from the government. walahi guys it's funny experience,it's amazing how people act, especially Libyans.i got many funny emails and phones u can't believe that can happen, read this email and told me what i should do

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاتة

نحن الطالبتبن سين وصاد من كلية الطب البيطرى جامعة عمر المختار من طرف الاستاذ اكس نحتاج الى قبول اكاديمى فى تخصص التشريح بالنسبة لصاد وعلم الانسجة بالنسبة لسين فى احدى الجامعات البريطانية

ولكم جزيل الشكر
now what i should tell the universities give Ms s and MS y offer of master degree or what .
the other day i got call at 6 am,and directly the call went like this

هى: انت الى ادير فى القبول الاكاديمى
انا: لا مش انا

she call at 6am this mean 8 am in Libya, but she couldn't say good morning or sallam alikum or anything good. there are a lot of funny stories i think it needs one especial post.

this funny experience has brought my attention for many things i wasn't aware of, most of those students are girls i think at least 80 % from the students who contact me, and all of them are singles which make their life more difficult because American and British embassies refuse to give visas to their fathers or brothers ,this bad situation put those poor girls in front 3 difficult choices

1- forget about the scholarship and stay in Libya and lose a big chance to discover the world and gain high qualification from abroad.

2- travel alone which i believe most of families will resist because of our highly respected values. at least 2 students told me that if they can not take her father or brother with her to uk, they will not come alone because it's against the isalm values( which i don't believe).

3- married the first one knock the door just to keep the chance of studying abroad and keep her progress.

now what you think and what you will do if you in that situation,if u r father or brother what u will advice your sister or daughter, and if u r the girl what decision u will take

Second generation Issue

Yesterday I had phone from my friend, who is living in Manchester, it was as usual about Libya, we had long debate on the phone about one hot issue related to the Libyan second generation who born and rise here in uk, my friend living here since 1990 and he has 3 children the eldest 11 and the youngest is 6, he is working as engineer in respected company, yesterday he phoned and told me I need your advice, his question was I need to go back Libya for good what is ur for advice me? I told him it's depend in his reasons and situation, which I was totally sure it's related to his children, which he replied and told me listen I need my children to be pure Libyan, I don’t want let them face conflict in the future about their identity, are they British or are they Libyan, to be honest all my friends here who have families they face this problem, all of them they suffer from this point, and all of them start to think to go back to Libya or to another Arabic country (most preferred country is Emartes).my friend told me the first problem I face is that children communicate to each other in his house by English not by Arabic, he told me he never speak English with them he just speak Arabic, but it seems the children find it easy to communicate by English, last few month I visited my friend in London who have two adorable children I think they were 5 and 7 and he faces the same problem the amazing thing is that when the father ask them to do any thing, he ask them by Arabic but the kids replay by English which I founded very strange, how can brain of small kid can understand the question by language and replayed the answer by another, also this friend start to think to leave uk to another country just to maintain the identity of his children, last month I went to a Libyan wedding in Birmingham with my friend and his two sons, which I know them very good, they both speak good Arabic, actually their father use his power and some times he punishes them if they speak English in their house and he do his best to let them remember all the Quran and read it every day in the mosque just to maintain their Arabic language, these kids I never hear them speak English , but that day, their father just left them with me for 5 minutes to speak to another friend and immediately the kids start speak English to each other, which I was completely surprised, I asked them what happen u just speaking Arabic before seconds , why u speak English now, they told me it takes long time from them to express what they think or what they want if they speak by Arabic but in English it so easy.

These examples and others from people who I know they lift Canada just to maintain the Libyan identity for their kids, it seems to be big problems for the families who live here, actually I can not feel this problem some times I told my friend you make problem from nothing, but in the other hand after these kids grow up I think they will find difficulties to answer this question am I Libyan or British, Canadian or American, to which part of this world they belong to.

Actually I face some thing similar to this problem now, my father who is from Albida 200km east Benghazi, ask my younger brothers and sisters to move from Benghazi to Albida to tack care of our land and house there and to be near our roots, but he faces a big opposition of them, they told him how we can move to another place completely different, as you see these guys refuse to move to another city even it is in the same country, same language, same law, what about these guys who born here after they grow up, will they find it easy to move to Libya with different environment, different prospective, I think it is very complicated issue. What you think?